The world has lost the sense of what romance is! We hear the "L" word tossed around in today's society so casually as if it holds no true meaning. We hear people use it to refer to a hobby that they "love", a friend that they "love", a food that they "love". But what does it mean to be in love with another person?
Love pushes us to give and give until we can't give anymore because true love is not self-seeking or selfish, rather it is self-less. It's about sacrificing for the one you care about because you rather see them happy. It's about losing all sense or track of time because at that moment when you two meet, that is all that matters in the world. It's about seeing and believing the best in that person and bringing it out. It's about accepting the other person for who they really are, it's recognizing that the person is not perfect but that even their flaws and shortcomings are beautiful to you because you wouldn't change them for anyone else in the world. It's about desiring to be close to that person, to cause happiness and pleasure because their smile brightens up your day. It's about seeking solidarity with them, sharing your secrets with them because you want them to feel special from all the rest.
It is all these things about the "L" word that push us to want to be exclusive and to belong to that person because the mere thought of them being with anyone else would cause your world to crumble and your heart to shatter. That timelessness makes you feel like they're slipping from your hands, like no matter how much time you spend with them it just isn't ever enough.
Marriage allows us to be exclusive to the one we love. But today in our society the value of marriage has been lost. Instead it is now viewed as a death sentence, as a killer of romance. Every woman can have her knight in shining armor, her chariot and her glass slippers to be swept off her feet. But as long as we remember that love is a journey, it's hard work and it's all about loving and accepting the other's flaws. So once we judge our relationships by these standards, we realize that we have thrown the word around and dragged it across the floor; we've raped it and harassed it and maybe we haven't been in love as many times as we thought.
1Corinthians 13:4-7 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres"
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